A few years ago during a conversation where I was pondering my wish list my husband asked me why I am never happy with what I have. It isn’t that I’m not happy with what I have, but I always think there must be something better. I think it is a drive within myself to be a better person, to have a nicer car, a nicer house etc. Personally, I don’t feel it’s wrong to want to better yourself and your lifestyle if you have the desire and means to make it happen.
Today I went outside and found my husband drilling a hook into the underside of my deck. “What are you doing”, I asked.
“I’m putting up a hook” he said.
“Why” I asked.
“It’s a man thing” was his reply.
It made me mad because I feel like no matter how hard I try, the outside of the house does not look like it belongs in this neighborhood. Most of the houses around me don’t have the stuff cluttering in front of their garages like ours does. I went in the house and stewed about it while I was preparing dinner, actually what I thought was “you can take the boy out of the ghetto, but you can’t take the ghetto out of the boy.”
Granted we didn’t really live in the ghetto, but our house always had junk around it and it discourages me that we have moved to a nicer neighborhood, but I still can’t get him to understand (after 20 years of marriage) that I want my house and my yard to look nice.
Well he comes back inside and I have to know, so I ask him, “so what’s the hook about?” Now I have to give the guy props for his because he turns it around so that its my fault that we have a hook in the house.
He says, “well you know how you don’t like the trailer lying around open, well I put the winch on the house and use the winch to pull the trailer up so I can fold it.” Seriously? It’s bad enough he has to have that stupid little trailer that sits in front of my garage, but now I need a hook in the house so the damn thing folds up! I think I married a Neanderthal.
Sometimes I seriously wonder about our compatibility, I mean I want a nice house, nice car, nice clothes. He’d be happy in a one bedroom shack on a lake. Wait a minute…that’s where I grew up, maybe that’s why I want something better?
I think this must be a man thing Jodi because my husband drives me crazy in the same ways. I want a nice looking house and yard but he has cluttered everything up with his “junk” saying the it will be useful one day. I have started calling him a hoarder, although it isn’t as bad as what I have seen on t.v. It is extremely frustrating though because like you I didn’t have anything nice growing up but want it now and I see nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself over what your parents had. 🙁
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Too funny Jodi. My Dad was like that. Lucky for me my husband Mike is not. I AM a little, though, lol!